How To Cyber-Flirt
Posted: Monday, March 16, 2009
by Gabriela Schmid
Spacelocker
Ladies, are you tempted to start flirting online? Wondering how to reply to email from a certain someone you might fancy? Well, now you can stop scratching your head over what to do.
Here are 10 tips to unleashing that Cyber-Flirt Superstar you know you really are:
1. The KISSS Principle
Flirting is like fishing; some guys like to fish and some like to be fished, so don't throw all your bait into the water all at once. You don't need to spill your life story in the first email or text. Keep It Simple, Short and Sweet. Ask a question or give a compliment about something you've seen in their online profile. Include an interesting fact about yourself and don't be shy about adding some humour. Ask light questions at first, save the rest for later, and always have fun!
Communicating online and texting don't let you read facial expressions and hear tone of voice. It's easy to misinterpret and take these communications out of context. Read over your message and don't rush to send it, and you won't have any misunderstandings.
3. Don't Come On Too Strong Until You've Met In Real Life
Communicating virtually doesn't mean you have to be dripping with sexuality. Remember, you're in fantasy mode here. Some of your senses are working overtime to feed your (and his) imagination. You don't want to be let down big when you finally lock eyes for real. Keep things playful, cheeky, and flirty, and a little innocence can't hurt. Have fun, ask questions. You're still keeping it light, right?
4. Be Truthful
Be yourself. Let the real you shine through. Don't hide behind a made up persona. If you don't lie, you'll never have to remember what you said when you finally meet. And who needs the grief of keeping up long term lies? You don't want your fellow Cyberflirter to fall for someone who's not you. And how would you feel if you were chatting with someone only to find out in real life that you're attracted to someone who's not them?
5. Make Him Wait-But Not Too Long
Have fun; tease a bit. Oh, come on; of course you can. It's for your own good. His too. Do your nails, take a bath, wash your hair, but don't respond to emails or text immediately. Keep him waiting-not to long-but waiting. More than a day is rude unless you've notified him in advance.
6. Finish With A Question
Keeping the lines of communication open is vital to cyber-flirting superstardom success. End your message with a question. Make it a good question. This shows interest, and if you the question intriguing, he'll reply eagerly.
7. No Drunken Texchts!
Avoid sending texts or email like the plague when you've been drinking. Most people who've been guilty of drunken texting only wake embarrassed and regretful in the morning. At this point, do you really want to have to start all over?
8. Don't Be Over Familiar
If familiarity breeds contempt, imagine the monster over-familiarity breeds. Now is not the time to use loads of kisses to sign off or other mushy stuff. Save that bait for when you're more comfortable with each other and have gotten to know each other in real life. Overly familiar overtures make you seem really insincere. Sucky, even. So don't. See Tip #2 instead!
9. Check Your Speling And Grammar
When you communicate virtually, first impressions count. They count everywhere. Check your spelling and grammar. Get comfortable with email etiquette. If you use CAPITALS for example, he may think YOU'RE YELLING AT HIM, and who needs that? And forget about really long acronyms, too. He may not know what you are talking about. Remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression.
10. Have fun
Cyber-flirting is all about having fun. If you get a good start, it's a whole lot easier to keep the good times rolling right into a real life relationship. Don't take your self too seriously; go with the flow to see where it leads you. Enjoy yourself and . . .
. . . who knows?
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